Often in life we forget to love ourselves. Sometimes that's because we get caught up in family, friends, or loved ones...but it happens and we put ourselves second. In doing so we may open ourselves up to being hurt in some fashion or another.
I tend to love fully and completely so when I share that love I tend to place a higher value on that relationship than I do on my emotional being. I was recently reminded how dangerous that can be. I was in a relationship with someone I loved with all of my being. I would have given him the world if I could have. I found myself wanting nothing more than to be able to provide him peace and happiness...but I didn't see that in doing so I was taking that peace an happiness away from myself. I was so caught up in what I wanted to give him that I couldn't see what he wasn't giving me. Then the bomb...he told me he didn't love me the same way I loved him. After 4 years of off and on and 8 months of living together AND after asking me to marry him...I listened to those things but didn't remember to LOVE myself.
My point is...remember to love yourself. Remember to listen to your inner voice. Don't make someone a priority who makes you an option. Always know that you are deserving of the love you give and demand it. It's not 50/50. Both must come to the table 100%. Express yourself and talk it out...allow yourselves to grow together not apart.
Evolution of the heart goes far beyond the mind...
Thanks so much for sharing. It really helps me feel better as to knowing I'm not the only one and not feeling like such a fool. Mine too, had asked me to move down to LA, marry him and then called it off. I share your pain, confusion, desire to learn from this and create a better self and future. The Phoenix lives.
ReplyDelete- Nathaniel Grey
Nathaniel...I promise things will get better. Despite how we feel at the moment it is important to put ourselves out there and open our hearts to growth and new things. Taking back the control of your emotional self will take back the power we have given to them. I know you will be okay and you WILL grow for the better out of this.
ReplyDeleteSending Lots of Love
hell yeah!!
ReplyDeleteim a huge fan of the "love yourself" thing. I always was accused of being the narcissist person yet it had nothing to do with aesthetics. we can walk with people, be with people, follow people or lead them, yet if there is no basic acknowledgement of oneself, then we fall out of the equation, being the weaker link.
Narcissus died of loving himself, and Icarus died loving the sun. so middle equation - works best.